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This article was published on October 20th, 2023
As the Christmas season approaches, many of us are starting to think about our plans to get together with family to enjoy the season and its festivities. However, for parents who are separated, Christmas can be a stressful time, sometimes accompanied by conflict. Every parent wants to spend the day with their children, but unfortunately, it’s not always possible, and the reality is often more complex. In this blog, we’ve pulled together some essential tips for planning your Christmas contact arrangements and how to deal with them.
It’s never too early to start planning for Christmas, especially when it comes to contact arrangements. Starting discussions early can help prevent disappointment and last-minute stress. This includes addressing any travel plans and accommodations, particularly if one parent lives at a significant distance away.
Planning also allows you to speak to other family members about their plans, find solutions that will accommodate everyone involved and put arrangements in place. Furthermore, it also provides time to have meaningful conversations with your children, helping them understand what to expect during the festive period.
Early planning provides you with a sense of certainty, so you enjoy the run-up to Christmas. However, it is good to recognise the importance of flexibility and backup plans. Discussing the next steps involved in any possible situation, such as illness or bad weather, ensures preparation for any unexpected change in circumstances.
Regardless of your relationship with your ex-partner, communication is paramount. If you can’t communicate face to face, you have multiple options available to explore, such as email or phone calls. What matters most is that you’re talking. It’s important to be open and honest during these conversations regarding Christmas contact arrangements.
Being precise about dates and timings helps to prevent misunderstandings and provides a clear picture of the proposed plan. While it may seem obvious, make sure to stay focused on agreeing on an outcome that works for everyone. These discussions are most productive when both parties stay calm and avoid emotive language, especially in front of the children.
During these conversations, remember that Christmas is only one day out of the year. You will need to compromise to achieve the best outcome for both parties and, most importantly, the children. Honesty plays a pivotal role, both in expressing your requests and considering the suggestions of your co-parent. Try to understand their point of view and why certain things may be important to them.
There are several options available for compromise; you may wish to alternate years with your children and swap houses on Boxing Day, or you may opt for a video call on Christmas Day. Over time, you will establish new traditions that align with your arrangements.
Try to work together to create a Christmas contact arrangement that works for both parents. We understand it can be difficult, but it’s key to focus on what’s important. Recognise that your children will likely want to spend time with both parents, so prioritise their best interests. By keeping the focus on your children’s well-being, fostering cooperation, and maintaining effective communication, you can create a Christmas contact arrangement that ensures a happy season for everyone involved and sets a good standard for the future.
Once you’ve agreed on a Christmas contact arrangement, document the details in writing. This will be a big help in the run-up to Christmas, preventing any misunderstanding or discrepancies. Make sure to stick to the plan as much as possible, ensuring a smooth and enjoyable Christmas time.
At Thorneycroft Solicitors, we have a team of family law experts who understand the importance of putting your children first, particularly if you don’t have an amicable relationship with your ex-partner. We understand that sometimes it can be difficult to agree on a Christmas contact arrangement, but our team is here to help.
With an in-depth knowledge and experience in family law, we know that no two families are the same. Our family solicitors provide clear advice and support in making the right decisions for you and your family as you embark on the appropriate next steps.
If you would like expert advice on your Christmas contact arrangements, don’t hesitate to contact our friendly team today. Call us at 0800 1979345 or fill out our simple online enquiry form, and we’ll be sure to be in touch.
